Being in a serious relationship in your 20s

Sorry for the silence the past week or so, I just got finished with taking finals last week and trying to work out work schedules and all that, but anyways, I decided to make a post today about having a serious relationship while your in college since one of my last post was about my boyfriend and I.

I don’t know about you, but I have always been told or heard that you shouldn’t settle down early, live your life how you want and do this or this and that before you worry about love and finding who you want to be with. While I think it’s a good idea to take your time with it and don’t settle for just anyone, I don’t think that everyone needs to wait until they are almost 30 to find that special person or to be with them. For some people, they find their special someone a little earlier in life and that’s okay despite what anyone else says.

I believe having a serious relationship at a young age is a good way to learn to “grow up”  in a sense and mature into the person you were meant to be. It teaches you how to be selfless and that the world doesn’t, never has and never will revolve just around you.

I met Chris almost a year ago. We didn’t go immediately into a relationship, we hung out, had fun and got to learn about each other first. We have been together now for 8 amazing months and we still have fun together and we still learn about each other. Being with Chris has taught me a lot about people, love and about myself.

For starters, I have learnt how I should be treated. Chris is very good to me and I thank him for that every time I think about it. He has showed me what it’s like to be with someone who truly cares for you.

With that, he has shown me what it is to truly care for someone other than yourself and to want for that person. To want their happiness over your own. To pray for them more than you pray for yourself. To be selfless!

We have shown one another what its like to have your best friend and lover be the same person. Chris and I have more fun together and do more together than anyone else. We pick what we both want to do, what we both want to eat, what movie to watch, etc. We are the one each other turns to when we have a bad day or when we just need to vent. When we have exciting news, we can’t wait to let each other know. We talk about things a lot of people are embarrassed to talk about in front of their boyfriend or girlfriend. To me, we are literally the definition of best friends and he taught me how to be that way, just as I taught him.

We have shown each other how to share just about everything. We have shared secrets, stories and memories. We share food, time, space and even money here and there. When were out late on weekends, he stays at my house and I let him have my room while I take the couch. If I stay at his brothers house with him, he gives me the bigger couch while he takes the small one. We both pay for things for each other, which because he is a gentleman, he pays for most, but I will talk him into letting me get things here and there too!

We have shown each other what it means to love another person more than yourself. As cliche as it sounds, it’s true! There have been times when he has gone out of his way to do things for me and I have done the same for him.

The key here though isn’t what you do for each other or how much you sacrifice, that’s just part of it. What really matters here is that you figure out who you are because of them. Chris teaches me what I really want from a partner. He teaches me how I should feel, how he should make me feel. He has helped me figure out what I want out of life and has given me part of it. He has helped me cross things off my bucket list here and there. He has shown me what it’s like to be supportive and encouraging.

There is a lot more to Chris and I’s relationship. But I will admit that it is far from perfect. There are plenty of times when we get aggravated or upset or mad with each other and we know that’s natural and it’s okay. Just remember that if in a disagreement, watch your words and instead of screaming at one another, talk it out. If I’m pretty angry I use facial expressions or a different tone in the way I speak instead of yelling.

Anyways, I know that I in no way regret ever having a serious relationship being only 21. I am a better person than I was because of Chris and I have learned a lot over the past few years. I think that having this type of closeness with someone at a young age can be very beneficial because it guides you as you grow and shows you things you can’t see on your own! I know that this is not for everyone, which is okay. I just really wanted to express my opinion and help others see that it’s not bad to know what you want early on. Maybe in a few years when I’m at a different place in life,  I will give an update to see if I still feel this way for all of my readers!

Thanks for reading ladybugs and manbugs 🙂

Merry Christmas!

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3 thoughts on “Being in a serious relationship in your 20s

  1. What a lovely post.

    There is never anything wrong with settling early although I have a hunch that elders tell us these things because they want to have traveled more, experienced more, got more schooling – whatever the case may be. That can always be the case, yes, but everyone has a different path in life.

    I wish I had traveled more when I was younger, BUT I will have that much more fun traveling with my husband, and going on trips sharing the experience with him. I was 18 when we got married and now that I’m 22, almost at our fourth wedding anniversary, nothing has changed.

    And honestly, there is no better feeling that being with your lover and best friend. It’s all about appreciation and the small things. Oh! And it just means you have more time with them.

    🙂

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    1. I agree 🙂 its hard to travel with little money you know. But even if you settle early, such as you did, that just means instead of experiencing things on your own, you can go new places and try new things with the person you love!

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