Slow Destruction of Ourselves 

I may hear some comments about this one but here it goes…
Social media is an addiction. It’s a literal addiction where whoever uses it feels a need for it, they feel drawn to it and sometimes it can cause that person trouble. It makes you feel like you have to have it or else you’ll go insane. 
It consumes you and makes you oblivious to things around you. 

I myself have been guilty of this many times and upon casually scrolling through Facebook this morning, it hit me! 

I asked myself why I am reading this? What am I doing exactly? 

I catch myself reading articles about signs you’ve found you’re soulmate or life partner or helicopter parenting. 
I’ll occasionally find myself reading fitness articles or seeing pictures of people who probably know every detail of Photoshop. And I know many of you reading this are guilty of similar things, we all are! What we don’t realize is how much damage we are inflicting on ourselves. 

It’s literally a slow death to your self esteem and your confidence each and every time you spend time on social media. And someone else’s every time you share a post. It makes you question you and every thing or person around you. 

With that, I will give an example! 

I’ve read more articles about signs you’ve found the man you should marry more times than I’d like to admit…and with each one I catch myself thinking, oh Tommy (my boyfriend who I have know for 8 years now) does that or doesn’t do that… What am I doing? 

I am comparing my relationship to someone probably halfway across the world who has no idea who I am, who my boyfriend is or any aspect of my relationship with Tommy…

So how does this person know that these are signs that Tommy should or shouldn’t be my husband one day? 

How do they know what I want in my relationship or what Tommy and I want from each other? 

Well…truth is, they don’t! And never will. So why am I taking my precious time reading their post? 

Another good example…and I have been guilty of this one too! 

FITNESS! So much of anything social media is filled with fitness goals and how a person should look it’s ridiculous. 

On Instagram, I might scroll by a picture someone else posted about a girl who is a size 2 all thanks to this magic fruit nobody in freaking America has even heard of. 

That’s an unrealistic goal my friend! To me being fit is being healthy and taking care of yourself. You don’t have to be a size 2 in order to do that. I am a proud size 4-6 and I worked hard to get there. I may not eat healthy all the time but I am, for the most part, proud of my health and the way I look. I walk with confidence. And I started by setting a goal for myself and reaching it in a way that worked for me! 

Each time you see or read something that you’re not, what happens? 

You think I will never be like that…and all your confidence that you’ve worked really hard to build gets knocked right back down! Am I right? 

On top of that…we see everyone else’s world. The rhings they do, the places they go, their friends, their families…every aspect of their world they choose to share. 

And that makes us think about the things we don’t have instead of the things we do… 

And that, my readers, is how social media destroyed human life every single day. And it is gradually getting worse and worse. 

So instead of the usual New Years resolutions…I set one for myself and said I am not going to let the social world around me demolish the life I chose to create for myself. 

Thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs! ❤️ 

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A Stranger’s Love

Today I learned just how true it is that you don’t know how or when you can make a difference in someone’s life. Something that seems so simple to you could mean everything to someone’s who is struggling. I was lucky one today, the one who saw the God works in mysterious ways sometimes, the one who finally heard what she needed to hear…someone who barely knows me made that difference in my life!

The past couple of months have been rough and I know that things could be a lot worse than they are and I also know that there is someone who has bigger problems than I do. So instead of going into detail…I will you a rundown of my crazy life.

I am 22 years old and currently a full-time student who is graduating next semester, a part-time worker, I just bought a new car and got some new furniture for my room. This year I lost some friends and gained a relationship with an amazing guy ho I’ve known for about 8 years now. I currently live with my parents, until I graduate college, I pay for my car and gas for my car, pay for my furniture, help with food and give my parents extra money when I have it. I have never been a problem child. I’ve never smoked anything besides hookah, will drink on occasion (so do my parents), never been into drugs or anything and do not have any children yet. I help my mom keep our house clean, keep my room clean, help with cooking and various other things for them. I will even give them money sometimes so they can go out and have some fun too.

In between schoolwork, homework, graduation, regular work and getting my Chiropractic Assistant certificate, making sure bills are paid and things are kept clean…it’s safe to say I have some stress in my life. To make matters even more stressful, my parents do not like nor approve of the guy I am dating. And it’s all because they judged the book by its cover. They won’t take the time to know him…he is currently not welcomed in my house and I am not to be caught going over to his house (we are both 22, he lives with his sister and his sister and my best friend, they are family to me). Every time I want to spend time with him (tommy) or his sister (April) it is literally World War 4, 5, 6, 7…in my house. And I know that I liv with them and I respect them because they are my parents. If I don’t do as I’m told, it is a blow out! I’ve tried talking with them, my mom especially, to try and get them to see that I’m happy. I have failed several times at my attempt and still don’t understand why…I always think back to the fact that I am good daughter to them, I can make my own decisions and granted don’t typically make bad ones but even if I do, I learn from them.

Anyways…my battle has now taken me to the point where I know I make a decision they don’t like or don’t follow their rules for my own happiness, there will be big consequences…which may or may not lead to my being kicked out of their house.

In light of all that, let’s get to the point behind this post.

There is a Rite Aid a minute down the road from my house and my mom and I go in there a lot…we have to get ice and my parents smoke so they get cigarettes and all that too. One of the cashiers knows us well because of us coming in so often. She is super nice and talks to us every time we come in if she’s there.

My mom forgot to get ice on our way from seeing a Christmas light show, so she sent me up to Rite Aid to get ice. Ms. Gloria (the cashier) was working and they were slow, so when I had paid for my ice, we had a nice conversation. She knows about my mother’s non-liking of my boyfriend due to drunken conversation she has had with Ms. Gloria on random Saturday nights. I guess I just really needed to vent to someone other than my boyfriend and his sister. I told her a lot and it felt really good to have someone around the same age of my parents agree with me on the matter. Another customer came up to the counter so I politely moved over and ended our conversation by jokingly saying well if I come in the store homeless next week, you know why. I giggled some after I said that but her response silenced my laughter almost instantly…this woman who barely knows me, looked at me and said, “I’ll make room for you.”

I simply said alright was I walked at the door, but it hit me a lot harder once I sat in my car and started driving off. I had the urge to cry, so I put my hand up to my mouth and felt tears well up in my eyes at the simple thought of how her words made a difference in my life in a positive way.

The more I thought about it…the more I realized that God had put me in the right place at the right time. Had my mom and I not forgotten the ice, I wouldn’t have gotten to have that conversation and those words are something I will never forget!

Thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs! 🙂

The World Doesn’t Need to be Happy 

Today’s post is something that I think really hits people hard, something that we struggle with everyday. 

Making yourself happy! 

Everyone goes through tons of decisions throughout their daily lives, most based on what other people will think… it’s human nature to worry about the opinions of others around you. 

But what about your own opinion? What do you think about that comfy shirt you want to wear or the new man/woman that your talking to… 

Being a 21 year old college woman, I understand these thoughts and go through them on a regular basis. Recently, however, I have discovered a new mindset…

Why should it matter what the person working out next to you thinks about your hair? 

Truth is…it doesn’t matter. And the more we realize that other people don’t notice us as much as we think they do, the better off you will feel. 

I’m sure that many of you have heard the quote, “those who matter, don’t mind and those who mind, don’t matter.” 

And this is literally one of the most truthful things I’ve ever heard. Think about who you care about and who cares about you. Think about whose opinion you really value…is it really the guy sitting next to you in class or is it a best friend you’ve had since your freshman year of high school? 

Truth is…people judge, yes, but those who mean the most to you will support you regardless of their opinions. 

Review: Scream TV Series

If there are some of my readers out there that have not yet heard, I was super excitd a while back about a new TV series being released. The series was a spin-off of the Scream movies (the director of the movies, Wes Craven, played a part in the tv show as well…may be rest in peace).

Anyways, I told everyone that when I watched the show, I would let them know what I thought of it. After watching the entire first season, getting addicted and being mind-blown with the first ever season finale, it is safe to say that I don’t want to wait until next year for season number two!

I was a little skeptical when I read an article that informed everyone that the iconic killer mask in the movie was going to be changed for the show. After reading the aticle, I had a different understand and mutual respect for the reasoning behind it. After reading and learning, I decided to try and find a picture of the new face that would be haunting viewers dreams come June 30, 2015.

I succeded in my task and I must say, the new face of horror is quite terrifying. Very well created with the image of a realistic human face in mind but with an edge.

Moving from graphics to the actual plot of the show which aires on MTV…if you have watched even one out of the four movies, then you have an idea of the story, however…since this is a tv show, there are some differences that will allow the story to drag on while moving forward at the same time. For those who need an idea…a group of high school students are confronted with a horrific and confusing problem when one of them turns up dead. After that being said and to give you a better sense, I am going to qoute a character out of show… Noah, the video-game nerd states in one episode, “Once the first body is found, the blood bath soon comences.” Which is exactly what happens, people lose their lives and friends are left trying to get answers. They put the puzzle together piece by piece and when the truth is finally revealed, they learn the tormentor was right under their nose the entire time revealed in a season finale that every viewer saw, but yet didn’t see coming.

Season two will be unveiled sometime next year, when I get a specific date, I will let all of my readers know!

If this show seems like something you would be interested in…I use xfinity online. All of the episodes are available for free as long as you have cable through xfinity…if not, hulu is another option. I will also be watching for it on Netflix.

Thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs! 🙂

Also, I apologize for my silence…life gets in the way sometimes!

Movie Review: Magic Mike XXL

To all my Manbugs out there, don’t shut my post down simply because it says Magic Mike in the title lol

Anyways, I decided to do another movie review this week, it’s been hard for me to post anything lately, but that’s a whole other story in itself. For my apologies sake, I’ll put my reasoning in simple words…my job and my search for a new job.

Let me start of my review by saying that if you’ve seen the first movie, then you know that there is a storyline to the plot, it’s not just a bunch of good looking guys throwing their clothes all over the place. The first movie’s plot is really about Magic Mike (Channing Tatum), who is a male entertainer, meeting this girl and trying to win her over, they wind up together in the end.

Magic Mike XXL is about the same group of guys but their story is trying to get themselves to a “stripper convention” which is going to be the group’s last show together. They go through some wild experiences and wind up really figuring out who they all really want to be and what they want to do most. They even wind changing their routines for the convention and I must say that the routines are amazing! I’m pretty sure I would faint if I ever saw that in person lol

While there is a good amount of taking off clothes in the movie, as you can see, the story is really about the group and what they do. There were ups and downs and quite a few parts that will make you burst out in random laughter. And the ending will leave some of you melting in your seat, which I think is great for any movie! I definitely recommend this movie to anyone who’s interested in watching it. And to those of you who don’t want to give it a chance, just try the first movie. See how it is, then maybe move on the XXL if you want.

Thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs J

If you watch the movies, leave me a comment and tell me what you think!

Movie Review: Jurassic World 3d 

I would’ve really liked to have had the opportunity to do this movie review the first night it came out, but do to my job, I was not able to. However, it’s the review itself, not so much when you write it. 

My mom really wanted us to go see a movie the other day and she chose to see Jurassic World, which I wanted to watch too. Her and I both have seen all the older Jurassic Park movies so we get the storyline, but Jurassic World was a bit different. The previews of course don’t tell you the whole story, so when I figured out what was going on, I thought wow this is a pretty cool twist verses the other Jurassic movies. 

It’s set in modern times and starts off by showing a family of four. The two kids in the family are leaving to visit their aunt who just so happens to be a part of Jurassic World. One of the kids loves dinosaurs so he’s pretty excited about the trip, the other not so much but warms up throughout the movie. 

The beginning of their visit goes great, they’re both having fun and enjoying Dino world. While sight-seeing in a field full of all kinds of dinosaurs, things start to go bad. They decided to explore an off limits area and are soon greeted with a not so friendly visitor who has been reeking havoc in Jurassic World faster than any human can keep up with. 

Things go very much downhill from there. Lives are lost and Jurassic World comes to end as we know it in one of the greatest movie battles I’ve ever seen. However, in the end, an unlikely hero is released to save the day. 

I highly recommend this movie. It was very exciting and even made me jump a little bit in my seat. I did see it in 3d which was good, but it would’ve been just as amazing in 2d. 

If you watch/watched the movie, leave me some feedback in the comments 🙂 thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs! 

A look into another form of Life

First off today, I would like to apologize for being a bit on the quiet side lately. I went on a vacation a few weeks ago with my mom and I work two jobs on top of everything else.

Speaking of vacations though, I really wanted to share my experience with everyone! First, my vacation was the first cruise my mom and I have ever been on! We were on the Carnival Cruise ship the Elation for five days and sailed from New Orleans, LA to Cozumel, Mexico for a day then Yucatan, Mexico for another day before heading back home!

I have to say that if any of my readers have never been on a cruise, I highly recommend it! My mom and I absolutely loved it and had the best time together 🙂 . I can honestly say it was the best and most relaxing yet fun-filled vacation we have ever taken. We loved it so much we are even planning another trip for next year!

Our first day on board was really us exploring and figuring out where things were and how everything worked, but that was exciting and adventurous! We actually got to board way earlier than we expected as well so we got even more time on the ship! J We had our first drinks, ate a nice lunch and dinner, watched a show and even enjoyed some dancing in the nightclub. Our second day was even better! At this point we were already in the middle of the ocean where all you could see for miles was nothing was deep blue ocean. We took advantage of the views and all the different shades of blues we could see. We also spent some most of our day by the pool soaking up the sun! In between we ate of course and played some more on the ship! Needless to say, we ate a lot of good food and there is something available to you literally 24 hours a day!

Our third day was probably the most exciting…this is when we ported in Cozumel, Mexico! Everything was beautiful, the town, shops and the water was literally see though Turquoise. After doing a little sight-seeing, we lined up to go on our shore excursion we had booked which was a high speed boat ride, along with some 360 degree turns, to a beautiful private beach area called Isle Pasion. There were shops, where mom and I got t-shirts, places to get henna tattoos, which we also did, authentic Mexican food, hammocks and beach chairs and tables with umbrellas, of course pretty blue-green water to swim in and even water trampolines for us to play on! It was a peaceful yet exciting day for mom and I and after our beach time was over, we walked around the town some before getting back on our ship. That night we were so worn out from our day, we fell asleep after dinner and slept until 6:30am the next day!

On our journey so far, we had made quite a few friends and met new people while on board, which makes it even more fun!

Our next day in port in Yucatan, Mexico was filled with shopping, enjoying more food and having some drinks with the friends we had made! Mom and I got a lot of good stuff for good prices since people love to bargain over there. We found us a fun bar and had some beers and daiquiris. I did the wobble dance (lol) and at the end of the day had to carry a random guy back to the ship 😀 (haha) he was drunk!

Our last play day on the ship before returning home was spent all over, by the pool, playing in the casino, shopping and watching shows! Mom and I were not ready to come home at all!

Upon porting back in New Orleans the next day, mom and I enjoyed breakfast as we had done every other morning (it was delicious), we filled our souvenir cups up and sat on the deck until it was our turn to board off. We said hello and goodbye to our friends and went through all the steps to departing ways with the best vacation we had ever been on! We got our luggage and were greeted with hugs and kisses from my dad and my boyfriend, then loaded up to come back reality!

Before getting off the ship so many people had said “go back to reality,” and the morning we had to leave, it hit me, the more I thought about it, the more people saying that made sense…it is literally the best description of having to come back home. Everything is different on the ship, you really feel like you’re just in a totally different world of existence. And through this world, I learned how peaceful and uplifting it is not to have to worry about phones and social media and technology and to have conversations at breakfast and dinner instead of resting your nose on the screen of a phone the entire time.

I asked my mom what her favorite part about the vacation in general was and she said the exact same thing I did…not having to be bothered with phones ringing and messages coming through. We absolutely loved not having access to technology and beforehand I had told myself I couldn’t survive without my phone and I’m sure many of you have had the same thought…so to put this simply, if given the option, I would do all over again and even now, when I go certain places, I put my phone away and enjoy life that much more!

I hope this post has inspired everyone to see the bigger picture in things and I say once again that everyone should take a cruise at least once in their life!

Thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs! 🙂

One of the Hardest Subjects About Life: Death!

The other day I was inspired to write a post on something a lot of people are afraid of and something some people maybe don’t understand. I was inspired through a college psychology class that I am currently taking. I was inspired through a teacher who wanted the class to watch a video on this very subject that some people avoid… The natural part of life, death.

I understand for some of you reading this right now that it may be hard, it may bring tears. Some of you will understand of some won’t and that’s okay. No matter who you are, if you took the time to read this, I thank you and hope that I help each and every one of you in some way through my words.

While watching that video in class, something spoke to me, especially in two particular parts. One being random people asked where they would want to be in their hour of passing, pretty much everyone said in their homes with their families. The other part was towards the end and was focuses on one man and what he was going through. He had a disease that affected his nervous system and would ultimately end with the passing of life. Upon listening to this man’s story, he says that he didn’t want to suffer, when you start to lose some of the good things about life, such as being to able your hand or your leg on your own. When you can no longer do simple things for yourself, like brushing your teeth…it becomes harder to notice the things you can do and easier to notice the things you cant’ do.

Hearing his words made me think of my grandmother who passed away in October 2012. I was very close to my grandma, in fact, my mom used to call me a “grandma’s girl” verses the usual “daddy’s girl.” The night her life on Earth ended and all the memories I cherished with her will forever be in mind heart and mind. In order for me to explain why this video spoke to me in such an encouraging way, I will explain what happened to my grandmother.

My grandma was a very strong woman, fought and won two battles with two types of cancer, stopped smoking cold turkey and even survived the loss of her husband of 47 years just a few years before she lost her last battle. Her last seemed a lot simpler than others she faced, but being 84 years old, she was tired. Her first round of cancer was a tumor very close to one of her kidneys and ultimately, she won her battle by having that kidney removed. However, due to only having one kidney, it made things a lot harder on her when the one she did have started shuting down.

The only way to fix this issue is to either have surgery or start kidney dialysis which basically does the common fuctions of a healthy kidney when your kidneys fail to work. Due to her age, the doctors were afraid that she would not make it through surgery so she opted for dialysis. She was in the hospital for a few days for her treatements and the family would all o spend some time with her during the day. I would go sit on the bed with her and watch some of our favorite shows and tell her about my day because she would always ask.

Well, she went through two rounds of dialysis before complications started. One night, my mom was visiting her while I was at school, she had come home around 8pm and said everything was fine when she left but she kept saying something told her to stay. Around 10pm that night, she recieved a call from the hospital saying that she needed to get up there as soon as she could. My mom and I threw on some clothes and my dad drove us there, good thing we only live a few minutes away. When we first got there, my mom went in by herself to figure out what happened and where we needed to go, she made me stay with my dad. Seems like forever went by before we went up to see her and by this time, a lot of my other family had shown too. Finally, all of us get to go in and when we get to the floor was on, we immediately were greeted by her doctor. He talked to my mom and some other family members, but I didn’t know what we happening. Then comes the moment of understanding for me..the moment the doctor took my entire family into a room just for us. At this point, I knew what was happening, but it hadn’t set in yet, even seeing everyone around me crying. When my cousins, who are close to my age and whom I’ve always been close with showed up, all of us tried to laugh and talk with each other. We started hearing code blues and at first we didn’t understand what that meant. All that changed for us when we were told we could go see her in small groups. When it my mom and I’s turn, that’s when I finally understood what was going to happen, that’s when everything hit me. I found myself walking back to see her with tears already running down my face. Code blue means cardiac arrest; my grandma had been labeled code blue twice since we had been there and once before we arrived, there was nothing else they could for her. Upon entering the room, I always tell myself it was no longer my grandma lying there on that table. She had a tube in her mouth and a machine allowing her chest to move up and down. I went up to that table anyways and said my goodbyes, the fact that she didn’t respond to me was a clear sign she wasn’t really there.

I didn’t want to leave, but my mom made me due to my having classes the next day. My dad took me home at midnight and as much as my mom wanted to get sleep, I knew I wasn’t going to get much. I cried a lot at this point but also found myself praying for my grandma. I prayed for God not to let her suffer anymore, on the other hand, I did pray for God not to take her away, but more to let her have peace. A few hours latre, my mom came home and told me that she was gone. I shook my head okay and of course started to cry again, but I look back now and realize that God answered my prayer, he didn’t let her suffer anymore. Which now I also realize that it was because my mom had told the doctors not to try to save her, to let her go in peace which I am thankful to my mom for.

Anyways, why the video brought all these memories…my grandma never had the chance to say she wanted to die in her home with her family, I never got the chance to hold her hand and be there for her when she took that last breath and a lot of people don’t get that opportunity. A lot of people don’t get the chance to say what they want when their time comes and this video makes a good point about that.

It my honest opinion that I think everyone should take the time to have this conversation with the people they love, even though its uncomfortable. I can honestly say that I think about dying and how I would want things pretty often but I’ve never expressed those thoughts with my family and friends and after seeing that video in class, I just might get up enough courage to do so and I encourage all my readers and followers to do so as well

Thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs! 🙂

Hint – The feature image on this post was my grandma, my cousin and I at my high school graduation. I am very thankful she got to be there for that milestone in my life.

Movie Review: Furious 7!

My boyfriend and I are huge fans of the Fast and Furious franchise. With the new Furious 7 movie being released this past weekend, of course my boyfriend and I went to see it and it just so happened to be our one year anniversary as well.

Since I am starting movie reviews, I thought the Furious 7 would be a great movie to review, especially in light of Paul Walker’s sudden passing.

Like most of the other Fast and Furious movies, this one picked up where Fast and Furious 6 left off.

With that, the beginning of the movie is action, however they threw in a lot of humor in this one which I thought was great! To me, from the very beginning, I was giggling and on the edge of my seat.

The plot in this one though is slightly different than the others. The usual crew, Toretto, Letty, Brian, Mia, Roman, Tej and recent team member Hobbs (The Rock) along with a few others play the good guys in a way. The crew has been targeted as the 6th movie led you to believe and in order to fight back with an advantage, the crew has to go on a rescue mission. Through that mission, they also gain a new member, Ramsey, but I won’t go any further than that.

There is a battle throughout the entire movie, but the war begins after the rescue is complete and the crew, who is being hunted, becomes the hunters in an attempt to get revenge on the one who has put their lives in danger.

My eyes were glued to the screen and there’s something exciting and unexpected around every corner, however I didn’t expect any less and I can definitely say the producers didn’t let the fans down on this one and I can’t wait for even more excitement to come.

As expected, of course they did a tribute to Paul Walker at the end but I absolutely love the way they did it. To me, they made it seems as if it was part of the movie. Toretto (Vin Diesel), plays a big part here which gave it that much more meaning and love. I can honestly say I didn’t cry, but my boyfriend teared up some, so if you plan on seeing this movie (which I highly recommend), bring some tissues!

“If one day speed kills me, don’t cry because I was smiling,” Paul Walker.

Thanks for reading Ladybugs and Manbugs! J

Enjoy the movie!